Well, what's worse is not really knowing it is happening and 为什么, and ending up demotivated, stressed and even depressed because of it.
In this post, I'm going to help you identify the 能量吸血鬼 in your life and give you some solid tips on 怎么样 to stop being a victim and take back responsibility for your own energy: your happiness, health, and vitality
What Are Energy Vampires, and Are 您 a Victim?
If you’ve ever had an encounter with a person that left you feeling tired, 耗尽, or even feeling guilty for something that isn't your fault, then you may well have been a victim of an 能量吸血鬼.
Energy vampires are quite simply those people around you that suck the life/energy out of you, leaving you feeling 耗尽, energy-less, and even depressed.
您 see, people operating on low energy subconsciously seek to recharge themselves by leeching energy from 其他 people.
The thing is, an 能量吸血鬼 is not necessarily conscious of what they are doing, and may be in an emotionally unstable state through no fault of their own.
Regardless, energy theft can harm both the perpetrator and the victim, and it's important to be aware of 怎么样.
For example, feeding off the energy of 其他s can…
To prepare for and guard yourself against 能量吸血鬼 it is vital to recognize their strategies. Setting boundaries for such people will be easier once you learn to identify the way in which they operate.
Superiority is the name of the game for dominator vampires. These vampires 爱 to be in control and intimidate their victims.
Often, dominator vampires have a number of insecurities around being hurt, wronged, or weakened by 其他s, so they try to conceal the emotional trauma by dominating/taking control of 其他s.
From a bird’s eye view, judgmental vampires 爱 to bully 其他 people, but zoom in a little closer and you’ll see their own shattered self-worth.
They feed their ego by highlighting and making fun of your insecurities until you feel pathetic and small. Basically, judgmental vampires treat 其他s just 怎么样 they treat themselves.
If there was an 能量吸血鬼 Oscars, the melodramatic vampire would take home the award for best actor.
They 爱 a crisis and being involved in problematic situations. They thrive on being victimized and therefore are in need of attention and 爱. 您r energy will be 耗尽 when you get sucked into the drama they create.
我们都知道自恋的人— those who lack empathy for 其他s and have a need for admiration. People with this condition are frequently described as arrogant, self-centered, manipulative and demanding.
Narcissist 能量吸血鬼 are the same: they don’t have a genuine interest in 其他s. Their motto is “me, me, me”.
They 相信 that their suffering is mainly due to 其他s, so instead of taking responsibility for their lot in life, they blame and emotionally pressure 其他s.
Victim vampires don’t receive enough 爱 and acceptance from 其他s, and this unworthiness makes them prey on your energy until you feel overly compassionate. Once you're sucked in, you feel guilty if you don't pay them attention and subsequently end up giving more than you can afford.
There are 能量吸血鬼 who are innocent and aren’t aware that they’re stealing the energy of those around them.
As with blood-sucking vampires, most 能量吸血鬼 can’t steal your energy if you don’t invite them to.
您 have free will: you have a choice as to 怎么样 much time and energy to spend with and give 其他 people. 您 can and should set limits and boundaries because, at the end of the day, you’re always at a disadvantage if you let 其他s suck the life out of you.
Don’t let the negativity of 其他s leech your energy. 您 will end up worse off.
2. Manage 您r Time Efficiently
It’s not worth sitting around someone for hours on end only to leave tired and stressed. Know your energy limits and live according to them. Set aside time for 其他s but leave enough for focus and attention on yourself.
3. Choose 您r Battles Carefully
Arguing with 其他s, particularly those who have rigid beliefs, will only cost you time and energy. While it’s tempting to disagree and argue it out, recognize that for people to change, they must be willing to change first.
4. Keep 您r Vibration Elevated
Some 能量吸血鬼 don’t want to see a 正 reaction from you; they want you to feel depleted and depressed, like they do inside. As a preference they go for people with lower vibrations, as they are easier to penetrate (ooh er, missus. Sorry).
So, keep your vibration level high by smiling and staying 正 关于 life. As the Beach Boys famously sung: ‘一定要让那些喜欢的人保持良好的振动状态。
One direct way to prevent 能量吸血鬼 from leeching off you is to avoid them.
6. Don’t Post 您r Entire Life on Social Media
Posting your life as you live it on social media is a good way to attract 能量吸血鬼, particularly the judgmental type.
Avoid letting 其他 people know 关于 your secrets, news, plans, or opinions through Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.
Only post the information you’re prepared to be criticized 关于; 其他wise, keep your fingers away from the ‘post something’ section.
When interacting with a vampire, having two or three 其他 people around will lower the level of attention you'll receive and the energy required to be given. If you you find yourself being 耗尽 by a conversation, draw a couple of 其他 people into the conversation to take the strain off.
为避免说话过多，请提出开放性问题，例如“how” and “why”. This will naturally make the 其他 person do more of the talking. After all, most energy drainers just want an ear to bend, anyway.
10. Reaffirm 您r Self-Worth
When feeling 耗尽 and 负 after an encounter, particularly with the dominator and judgmental types, re-center your energy by repeating 正 thoughts and affirmations. 冥想 is also a great way to re-channel your 正 energy and release the negativity.
When talking with an energy-sucking individual, stick to light-hearted topics. Change the focus of the discussion and neutralize it when it becomes 负, depressing or stressful.
Remember, 能量吸血鬼 want attention; to provoke a reaction from 其他s. Don't rise to the bait. Remain calm and on topic, and deflect invasive and 负 comments and suggestions that you don't feel comfortable with.
13. Leave If 您 Need To
Remember that no one can force you to be around them. So if you find yourself on a day when you just can't deal with this energy leech anymore, take a deep breath and excuse yourself. Go surround yourself with some happy, 正 people!
As previously mentioned, 能量吸血鬼 feed on your reactions. For them, empathetic people are easy targets, because most 能量吸血鬼 have low self-worth.
No matter 怎么样 hard some tries, their words can't drain you if you don’t allow them to. It’s not easy, I know, but learning to hear but not absorb and let go will keep your energy high.
While 能量吸血鬼 can steal your 正 energy, they can’t succeed unless you allow them to affect you.
So rather than avoid people through fear, it is best to remain compassionate and supportive while learning 怎么样 to manage your time effectively and control your energy distribution.
In my experience, the best way recharge is to surround yourself with 正 people whose values align with your own. Remember, you are your own guardian, but the company you keep will help you create a healthy energy space too.